Hurtful

[nfotxn]

I'm really pissed off with people who contact you via whatever medium on the internet, determine that can't have sex with you and then stop talking to you. More often then not these men have husbands at home who they're all lovey-dovey to so they can somehow justify emotionally abusing the rest of us.

Could you guys PLEASE give your heads a shake?

I know this behavior is the status-quo in the bear community but so is vaginal mutilation in south africa. All it takes is a little consideration of the feelings of others.

Comments

Yeah, it's a pretty fucked world.

[notofthisworld.livejournal.com]

*Hugs*

[scoobycub.livejournal.com]

Hey Babe, Sorry I hacve been soo busy latley let me know whne your back in town...we have loads to castch up on...miss you lots.

*hugs*

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

I certainly have experienced this, but I have to say that it's far more global than just the bear community. There was a man who responded once to a personal ad of mine; he detailed that, yes, he was married with CHILDREN, but he needed sex. I told him that, look, I can't have sex with a married man, but I'd be glad to be friends ...

Never heard from him since ... no surprise there, ne?

[joeycubusa.livejournal.com]

I know how that feels. I have soo been on the recieving end of that trash myself and it really hurts and pisses me off. Thats when I find out who the quality men are in my life. Yeah I am attracted to some of them, but if the chemestry isn't there in one department why should I throw away a great friendship? Sex is nice but isn't or rather shouldn't be the basis for every relationship and I think that in the gay community in general that seems to be the focus...not always..but in my experience it has been....suffice to say though I have good friends who happen to be beautiful that I could never stop being friends with just cause it doesn't work in a relationship or sexual way...I'd like to think I am a little bit deeper than a bean dip platter.

Oh man, I know how that feels....

[punkcub.livejournal.com]

I hate when guys do that! It's the shallowest of the shallow things you can fucking do online; they talk to someone for the sole purpose of a good fuck coming out of the conversation and then, deciding the person isn't fuckable, they just forget you exist without even a cold "bye" like you just instantly transformed from a potential fuck to a half-dead leper with every STD in the book and a few that aren't yet in like 10 minutes. I HATE motherfuckers that do that! It's the most insulting thoughtless goddamn dickless-jerk thing... When someone does that to me I wanna show up at his front door unexpectedly, burst in, lift him off the ground by his balls (if there indeed are any), and punch him in the stomach repeatedly. They bring out the hate in me... *rant-rant-rant* So anyway, aside from me showing my scary evil side... I wanted to say I can relate. *hug*

Why the heck do guys do that?

[lostncove.livejournal.com]

nothing original to add, just affirming your position.

people can be dumb.

[cub4bear.livejournal.com]

I know this behavior is the status-quo in the bear community but so is vaginal mutilation in south africa.

I think you just wanted to use the phrase "vaginal mutilation" in a journal entry.

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

Yes