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[nfotxn]

I have decided as of late, without a shadow of a doubt, that I am no longer interested in people who think only with their dicks. There are so many guys out there who's dick has crawled up through their torso and is now inside their skull controlling their brains. That's ok sometimes, but I'm talking about people who are forever in this state.

I dunno, maybe it's my changing priorities lately. Sex is still a priority, it's just not #1 anymore. I dunno, am I alone on this? Or is everyone out there getting laid and not reading this? ;)

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[brianmn.livejournal.com]

*thrust, thrust, thrust*

What's that you say?

*thrust, thrust, thrust*

Can't quite read it from this angle...

*thrust, thrust, thrust, FLIP*

Ok, that's better... I totally agree - some guys are all about sex, constantly on the make, and it gets tired. It is a fun conversation topic at times, though, and a little flirting here and there is fun, too. But I agree, too much is too much.

*thrust, thrust, thrust*

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

"*thrust, thrust, thrust*"

That's too funny!

I guess it's all about balance. The sex part, or at least the thinking with your dick part. Sex is fun to talk about and it makes me giggle like an asian school girl named Jing. Sex *tee hee*.

[beardoc.livejournal.com]

I don't believe they're mutually exclusive. Why can't intelligence be a turn-on?

[haenck.livejournal.com]

No, you aren't alone.

Just *mostly* alone.

Wait, that's too flip...

OK, not everyone thinks exclusively with their dicks, but as a gay man you are required to put up with men who are trapped in perpetual adolescence *and* you have to put up with them in good humor, offering your constant understanding and support, because to do otherwise would be betraying your own kind.

Not that I am bitter.

Hey wait! I am getting to a point here.

My point is this: annoying as they are, people who think with their dicks prosper and continue to get by in this world, because we let them. Often the people that think with their dicks do so because they can- usually because they are 1.) attractive or 2.) really good at sex and/or 3.) good people lose their focus and bearing when they are really horny.

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

I guess that's the irony of the modern world. Intellect is soooo important these days yet we still let pretty people get away with murder.

I think that's a biological imperative and not going to go away any time soon. So, if you can't beat 'em I say join 'em. Or just stay away all together. Simple as that really. I'm not much of a recluse myself.

[haenck.livejournal.com]

Uh... yeah...

I understand now.

...I guess...

*walks away*

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

Hey, not that I don't agree with the allowing fags to be perpetual adolescents. I think that's totally true. But the choice to move past that I think isn't one you have to scream and hollar about, so to speak. It's a personal choice to become an "adult". It's implied to others through the obviously reaped benefit of not being a ketamine bumping, fashion obsessed, popper sniffing and trick pulling retard.

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[haenck.livejournal.com]

My rule is a simple one:

If you don't like a behavior- don't reward it.

Sure, there is no benefit from screaming and hollering. But if, say, you have a friend who say makes the same self-defeating mistakes over and over again. It might be called for to say, "Hey, you are fucking up..."

That sort of thing I think is necessary- and very rare. People are too afraid of being accused of making value judgements to call out bad behavior, methinks.

[notofthisworld.livejournal.com]

>People are too afraid of being accused of making value judgements to call out bad behavior, methinks.

Word. It's part of the whole post-modernism thing. People are afraid to have opinions, because they're afraid it'll make them "intolerant", which is silly. This generation doesn't even know what tolerance means.

You've got to have opinions. Otherwise, what are you? "If you don't stand up for something, you'll fall for anything."

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

Very excellent point. It's something I always have to remind myself.

[notofthisworld.livejournal.com]

>So, if you can't beat 'em I say join 'em.

Maybe. But I still intend to beat them.

And I will.

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

But they MAY like it. ::nod::

(Warning: Mushy dribble ahead.)

[notofthisworld.livejournal.com]

My previous answer about "beating them rather than joining them" was a bit flippant. (True, but flippant.) I'm going to be a bit more serious here.

Brodie, you're too good of a person to hang around people you don't like.

It's a big world. You should be able to find people who like you, who make you feel good about yourself, and whom you can enjoy hanging out with without feeling guilty about it.

And you shouldn't have to feel trapped in a Peter Pan complex if you don't want to be. You're limiting yourself if you do, and that's worrysome. Haven't you seen Dead Poets Society? "Don't strive to be ordinary; Strive to be extraordinary."

Also, it's always been my experience that maturity pays off in the end. That may sound rich coming from someone who's only 23, but others will tell you the same story too. I have faith in it.

And I think you're being a bit broad with what you're calling a "biological imperative".

(And I'm not just writing this about sex. In a sense, I'm writing it because of what I think is implicit in what you wrote.)

Anyway, *Hugs*.

[mathan.livejournal.com]

Personally I think there is a time and place for everything. Theres a time for thinking with your head and there is a time for thinking with your dick. The priorities change all the time. :)

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

That's a good approach that I think I'm formulating/trying to adopt.

Let me play the devil's advocate

[cub4bear.livejournal.com]

Not to be an ass, but I feel like I have to provide a moment of devil's advocate clarity:

I dunno, maybe it's my changing priorities lately. Sex is still a priority, it's just not #1 anymore.

Was it ever your number one priority, though? I don't think it was.

This sounds like what a lot of people who aren't getting any sex say to make themselves feel better. "I'm not getting lots of sex, which means I don't think with my dick, and that makes me superior to all those unthinking boors who think with their dick and DO get lots of sex."

Re: Let me play the devil's advocate

[nfotxn.livejournal.com]

So you're proposing a third way? To get sex without being focused on sexuality? Excellent point. Taken further you could imply that my post being not about sex is actually about sex and my not getting any, or at least with any frequency, is the motivator?

;)

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[(Anonymous)]

of course its normal and good... all the ppl is pontentialy bisexual because you dont love the body you love the person... S.N.M

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[notofthisworld.livejournal.com]

Who wrote this? Is someone going to be offended if I call this bi-supremacist nonsense?

I don't think people are all potentially bisexual. You love the person, yeah, but you have sex with the body.

There are lots of people I love, but I don't have sex with them.

I choose one person to have sex with.

it's all about context.

[stingray1975.livejournal.com]

i would agree with iain. i think it's important to strike a balance in all the aspects of my life - and it's what i seek in others. getting laid 24/7, constantly searching out sex is not something i want or need. in fact, i find that when i've gone through such phases in my life in the past, i was experiencing low self-esteem. but that's just me. :o)

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

Sex certainly has its time and place. Yes, I can be as gutter-brained as some people (and sometimes more so) ...

but when it starts interfering with basics of LIFE (school, work, or the pursual thereof; maintaining a household or general friendships; etc.), THEN it becomes just as big a problem as anything else in extremes.

it all boils down to one question:

[ranger1.livejournal.com]

What do you want?

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