Proselytizing Victorian Shit Face Motherfucker with a Small Dick and an Axe to Grind

[nfotxn]

I try my best to be humble, I really do. It's one of the best policies I've ever used to learn. But at the same time there are always people telling me I'm hot Shit. I mean I won't lie, I get compliments all the time be it for how "well adjusted" I seem in person, playing viola, looks or what I write in class for my teachers. Am I just supposed to ignore praise? There's nothing more disgusting than a raving egomaniac.. have I become my worst nightmare?! Maybe I purposefully alienate myself with language and references just to give myself a sense of worth? Actually, I know that's true and I'm sure everyone does it.

I don't need or want to be liked by everyone, but I really do try not to be actively repulsive.

Comments

[gusmacroy.livejournal.com]

whatever, accomplishments, music, smarts... I'm just using you for sex.

[dirtyglamour.livejournal.com]

Yeah, just be yourself and don't worry. There will always be people telling you that you're full of yourself. Many times it's out of their own insecurity. At the same time there are people who will tell you that you are hot shit, just to get in your pants or who have their own agenda. Take all the compliments with a grain of salt along with the criticism.

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

Accept compliments with grace; you will provide a delightful counterpoint to those with inflated egos.

And when assessing yourself, consider using this yardstick: not how much you personally have to offer the world -- but instead your success in sharing it with others and your ability to inspire and bring out similar positive traits in those around you.

Hope that doesn't sound too flaky...

[scottbear2000.livejournal.com]

Very well put! Not flaky at all...

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

"We get closest to our truest selves when we most give ourselves away." — Jim Parker

Re:

[scottbear2000.livejournal.com]

Nice to meet you... well, kinda meet you I guess! I like your way of thinking!

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

I always respond to comments from handsome guys like you. See, I can be as shallow as I can be deep! [hee hee]

: )

Re:

[scottbear2000.livejournal.com]

heheheh - my kind of man!

[mordo.livejournal.com]

Yer haaawwt when yer insecure. Woof!

[tcbear.livejournal.com]

Would you rather have nothing to offer the world?

You're a pretty smart guy. See what's behind the compliments, there is nothing wrong with taking a genuine one. A compliment means you're on the right path. Put things in proper perspective though, you are your own yardstick to measure...not someone else..and you know when you're happy with yourself.

The rest of it is all gravy..nothing more :-)

[bearzbub.livejournal.com]

Is this from your spity spat with with the shitty kitty?

[aadroma.livejournal.com]

Just remember there's just as amany people who will get annoyed with constantly turning down any sort of praise; there's that middle ground to maintain in accepting praise but not having an inflated ego.

Yeh Yeh..

[sonoranbear.livejournal.com]

fearing what you may turn into is rather folly.. it just illustrates how in touch you are with yourself which all but precludes that potential my dear.

But on a lighter note.. when did you create a variant of my beard?! It looks good on ya!

There.. deal with that compliment and the purposeful context therein!

*hee!*

[freakystyle.livejournal.com]

Brodie... you think too much. If it bothers you that much that you are thinking about it, that makes you way beyond an "egomaniac", although I see a Marsha complex going on. :o) You do seem extremely smart for your age but don't ever let it get to your head. Take the compliments when you can get them for what ever reason. Maybe some people really mean it without wanting to get into your pants. It doesn't mean that you are better than anybody else.

[freakystyle.livejournal.com]

Oh BTW, I know that you aren't always well adjusted in person. :o) That's not such a bad thing.

I have one last thing to say. DON'T TRY TO FIT IN!!!!!!!!
IT'S NOT WORTH IT!!!! There are people out there who will like you for just being you. FUCK EVERYBODY ELSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, so I'm a nasty bitch tonight!

Consider the Source

[jwall.livejournal.com]

Ignore praise flying out of people you don't care about. The only praise that has any value to me comes from people I admire.

An egotist impresses themselves with their own bullshit. A badass impresses everyone else with actual talent. So, someone says you're hot shit... nothing wrong with saying "yup."

[lthrcnk.livejournal.com]

You just ARE cub....and that isn't a bad thing. That can be great one day, not so the next..but ya know, no one else can be you..and this is a good thing. Hugs if u r still feeling a bit wonky....grrrrrrrr

[cub4bear.livejournal.com]

Someone very wise once told me that if that if every time one is offered a compliment one accepts it and says "thank you," eventually one will start believing them.

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

>>Take the compliments when you can get them for what ever reason. Maybe some people really mean it without wanting to get into your pants.

Quite true. And further to Steve's comment above, you can usually tell from both the content and the delivery of a compliment what a person's motivation is in offering it.

Accepting compliments gracefully is an valuable skill to hone — but a far more powerful asset is the ability to offer a genuine compliment to someone without any self-interest at all — for the sole reason that you felt that it would benefit them to hear something positive about themselves that you believe to be true.

And Dave is right, too, that the more you accept sincerely offered praise, you more you believe in yourself. And that's something that we all — not matter how naive or how jaded we see ourselves — could use more of.