The Subject of Beauty

You can't help but notice a lot of self-identifying "bears" don't think they're good looking. You've probably felt the same way yourself, I know I have and probably will continue to for the rest of my life. But it doesn't have to be crushing. It doesn't have to lower my spirits and I think more than anything it doesn't need to be chronic.

Often blame is set on "the community", but I'd argue that you and I are the community. You can't blame a community that is, and don't kid yourselves, primarily about sex for being unsupportive about your self-esteem issues. Beauty is utterly subjective. Like the old adage "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" says. Beauty aesthetic, subscribed, conditioned, genetically inherited or otherwise, is a measure no man can compare to and no one should expect themselves too. It's harsh Darwinism at work curating the gene pool, and I believe as a human being with free will I can choose not to participate. Or participate when I want to.

I have that freedom.

Real esteem for one's self and the reciprocal substantial respect, in my experience, comes only from accomplishment. Not god given dick.